"Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who wants to be in an institution?" This sounds funny, but seriously, getting married is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life. I have been married J.C. Thomas, Jr. for 28 years and there are so many things that we did not know before we tied the knot, and I am sure that there are others out there who need what we needed. God has laid it on my heart to put together a dozen insights that will be helpful to you before you tie the knot. A Dozen Things You Must Know Before You Tie the Knot By: Glenda M. Thomas

1. Marriage was conceived by God, planned by God and designed by God. Therefore we need to seek God's guidance in marriage. Too often we do what we have seen done without question. Everyone has opinions about marriage but you cannot afford to listen to everyone. Remember, what works for some people may not work in your relationship. Then who do you listen to? I'm glad you asked. I suggest reading books along with workbooks that focus on Christian marriage. For example: "Before You Say I Do", by H. Norman Wright and "Too Close, Too Soon" by Jim Tally.

2. I recommend getting Christian-based pre-marital counseling. There are counseling assessments that can help you to understand yourself and your potential mate better. Family history, personal types, and other aspects of your lives can be explored and discovered during the course of counseling: Taylor-Johnson Temperament Analysis and Family History Index. These are survey-like questionnaires that reveal information that facilitate the pre-marital counseling process. It can actually be fun.